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Love and War by John and Stasi Eldredge

image001.jpg Marriage is hard. Ask anyone who is, or has been, married and you’ll most likely hear some variation on that sentiment. It’s true. It takes work. It’s not for the weak, nor the lazy. To make your marriage really work, to find joy in your companion, to do more than just co-exist, you have to be active.

In Love and War, John and Stasi Eldredge discuss their marriage and what they’ve learned through hard work and many years of actively seeking to understand each other. I do like that they presented both of their takes on situations, what they were thinking and how a misunderstanding affected each of them.

That said, the book is heavy on traditional gender roles based on the Bible and Christian traditions. While there’s not anything wrong with that, it’s not always in line with my own personal beliefs. But I still found plenty of things to take away from the book, mostly being in the form of pondering how I act (and react to things) in my marriage. Am I thinking about the best interests of our relationship in things I do and say? Am I really listening to what my partner wants, or do I just hear what I think he wants?

It earns a solid 3 stars from me. It was easy to read and understand and I think I learned a few things from it.

Book Summary:

What the Eldredge bestsellers Wild at Heart did for men, and Captivating did for women, LOVE & WAR will do for married couples everywhere. John and Stasi Eldredge have contributed the quintessential works on Christian spirituality through the experience of men and the experience of women and now they turn their focus to the incredible dynamic between those two forces.

With refreshing openness that will grab readers from the first page, the Eldredges candidly discuss their own marriage and the insights they’ve gained from the challenges they faced. Each talks independently to the reader about what they’ve learned, giving their guidance personal immediacy and a balance between the male and female perspectives that has been absent from all previous books on this topic.   They begin LOVE & WAR with an obvious but necessary acknowledgement: Marriage is fabulously hard. They advise that the sooner we get the shame and confusion off our backs, the sooner we’ll find our way through.

LOVE & WAR shows couples how to fight for their love and happiness, calling men and women to step into the great adventure God has waiting for them together. Walking alongside John and Stasi Eldredge, every couple can discover how their individual journeys are growing into a story of meaning much greater than anything they could do or be on their own.

This book was provided for review by WaterBrook Multnomah.

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